Hi, I’m Kelly and welcome to the Raising Love podcast. Raising love within yourself as only you can.

Brought to you by LOVE body and the Positively You program.

Welcome, welcome.

So happy to have you listening.

Now. If you haven’t heard the previous episode of the Raising Love podcast “your NOW story”, I do recommend you go back and listen to that one before listening to this one as it does lead into your NEW story.

Because your NOW story comes before your NEW story. They are the stories you are living in now. Those stories you have held onto (knowingly or not) for a very long time.

So, if you are pressing stop and going back to listen to the previous episode, then I say enjoy and I will see you back here soon.

Alright, let’s get into your NEW story.

I think I have already mentioned in one of the other raising love episodes about how I came to realise that I didn’t have to stay stuck in who I was and what I believed about myself.

These were my NOW stories. I believed so deeply that I was the way I was and I couldn’t change that I continued to tell myself this over and over again without ever knowing what really was possible.

And it was through my work with LOVE body that the true realisation of what was possible filled me up with immense joy and fear.

I was both happy and afraid of what was to come. I didn’t know HOW I was going to create that change in me because I had tried before. Many, many times.

And, I failed many, many times.

So, why was this time going to be any different? Why would I actually be able to become the person I had always dreamed I’d be?

I was hopeless. I was unworthy. I was fat. I was useless. I was full of anger and hatred. These things were my life.

They were who I was.

Well, that’s what I believed to be true anyway.

Those stories swirled around in my mind every single second of the day and they infiltrated every single part of my life.

It was a daunting task to even begin thinking about changing any of it.

Where did I begin?

I believe the best place to always begin is to go within.

Inside of you is so much wisdom and knowledge about yourself and we discount all of that because we put our trust in what others think and what they say about who we are.

We want THEIR validation and dismiss our own.

So, those sharp words, those hurtful looks, those experiences that leave us feeling less than; all penetrate our whole being and become a part of us.

They turn into stories that build and build in our mind until those stories no longer resemble what they were originally.

Your stories are a part of you whether they hold truth or not.

It’s those words you have on repeat that determine how you live your life.

But what if you could re-write those words? Turn them into your NEW story?

I can honestly tell you that this IS possible.

If you lived inside my mind about 5 years ago for more than a minute you would want to run away screaming.

It was a blood bath in there. I mutilated and tortured myself consistently, leaving me lying on the floor bleeding to death, not willing too offer myself any help.

I wanted me to die. I wanted the person I was to die. I didn’t physically want to die (ok, sometime I did want this) but I did want that woman to leave me the fuck alone.

But she was the one who was torturing me. She was trying to take over my mind and my body so I wasn’t able to connect with the real me anymore.

She told me lies and turned me into a scared, angry woman.

But I was so sick of her and her bullshit. I was sick of her ruling my life, I was sick of her not allowing me to be who I wanted to be.

I had to take back control. I had to find who I was again.

That’s when I finally said ENOUGH!

I don’t want these bullshit stories to rule my life anymore. There has to be more to me than this, there has to be a more loving way for me to live here on this earth.

So I began to re-write those NOW stories and turn them into my NEW stories. The stories I actually wanted for my life, the stories I actually wanted to hear inside my mind, the stories I actually wanted to BE.

Of course, there are many things we cannot control in this world, we must surrender and trust that we are given what we need but there is definitely one thing you can control and you can change; and that is what goes on in your mind.

Every single word you say in your mind to yourself can be reversed and replaced.

But it does take some conscious thought on your part to recognise what needs to go and what can stay.

Our thoughts are constant, the stories are constant. As soon as you open your eyes in the morning they begin. It’s like the worst good morning story ever.

Your mind telling you how fat you are, how awful you are and all of that other bullshit we tell ourselves.

But why are you fat and awful? What is the story that goes with that? Find out.

It is time to find out.

Find out where it has come from so you can reverse it and replace it with a more loving and kind story. A story you want to hear about.

Because in amongst your NOW stories there will be dreams and wishes and desires your loving voice keeps reminding you of. She wants you to remember who you truly are. She wants you to know that there is so much more to you than those shitty stories you keep telling yourself.

She wants you to focus on the good in your life, the good in you.

And you can do this by knowing what you want your NEW stories to be.

You don’t want to be fat and awful? Then tell yourself you are absolutely beautiful as you are right now. Every single part of you. Can’t believe every single part of you can be beautiful?

Focus on one part at a time. My arms look great. Does’t matter is it’s some random body part like your shoulders, you knees, whatever! Focus on one thing and love it with as much as you’ve got. This will begin to change your story about how you feel about your body.

My body is wobbly and I have a jelly belly but I choose to love it anyway. I choose to re-write the story of loathing and hatred I had about my body.

I don’t want to live with those kinds of feelings anymore.

I want my stories to be ones of love and appreciation, kindness and goodness. Of giving myself a chance to live in this world without all of the torture I used to put on myself.

My story deserves a happy ending.

But I get to CHOOSE what my story is. No one can do that for me. No one gets to do that for me.

It’s not selfish, either, to know and understand your stories. It’s not selfish to re-write them into what you want them to be.

As women we definitely get the guilts about going after what we want. We have been taught to hold ourselves back and forsake who we are so others can shine.

Let’s not allow this to happen anymore.

You DO get to be who you are. You DO get to live out your true story.

The story you are meant to live is within you. It is waiting for you to hear it. To hear your loving voice as she reads it out to you.

Write it down. Discover your NEW story by listening to what she is saying to you.

Take some time to hear her.

So, your power move for this week is to listen. Listen to your loving voice inside of you. Go within and really hear what she is saying to you.

Hear beyond the same old stories and turn those same old stories into your NEW stories.

Reverse them and replace them. Hear Missy Elliot in your mind (sing the song) and make it fun. The more fun you can make it the less hold those stories will have on you. They’ll become a silly joke someone once told you that you no longer know how to share.

Those NOW stories will eventually begin to disappear into nothingness leaving plenty of room for your NEW stories to come into existence.

Now, I will be honest. This isn’t a quick and easy process. It is a process you will continue to do for the rest of your life.

You will continue to uncover NOW stories as new experiences happen in your life. You’ll find yourself reading out a story you haven’t heard for a long time as you try to do something new, to be something new and to have something new.

That voice will give you a million different reasons why you shouldn’t be it or have it or do it.

But don’t let it fool you. Because you know better now. You know you deserve to live out your NEW story because you listen to your other voice, your loving voice.

She is the only one who knows who you are and what your true story is. She is the one who can help you re-write ANYTHING you want to re-write.

Write our your NEW story and give yourself permission to begin living it.

Allow the depths of your being to guide you and TRUST in the process. Trust in yourself.

Your story is a beautiful and unique one.

Bring it to life. Don’t copy any one else’s.

Don’t let too many people be a guest author as you write your NEW story.

This is your story. Yes, there are others to consider. It isn’t about dismissing their needs and wants because of course they have their own story. But the people who come into your life do so for a reason.

You may have a very similar NEW story to write together. But write yours first and then use it to intertwine with those you love.

Trust it will all work out as it needs to.

So listen. Connect and write.

Bring your story to LIFE!.

This is another beautiful way to raise love within yourself.

Thank you so much for listening, beautiful. This really is a dream come true for me.

I spent so much of my life being quiet, not speaking up, staying small that I forgot I have a voice worth listening to.

You may not always agree with what I say and that’s ok.

This is a conversation between us. Yes, I have lots to say but I also want to hear what you have to say.

So, leave me a comment, email me your thoughts, get in touch and let me know what conversations you’d like to have.

But before you go, I invite you to find out more about the Positively You program. Inside the program there is a more detailed lesson about discovering your NOW stories so you can release them and feel more empowered to re-write them into your greatest LOVE story.

We all have a LOVE story inside of us, waiting to be written. Waiting to be explored.

Are you ready to find yours?

Use the link in the show notes to find out more.

Continue raising love within yourself. Speak soon.