Hi, I’m Kelly and welcome to the Raising Love podcast. Raising love within yourself as only you can.

Brought to you by LOVE body and the Positively You program.

And in today’s episode I want to chat with you about a part of yourself you have probably forgotten about or you ignore or you may not even know she is there. But she is. She is within you. She is of you. She IS you.

Who is she?

She is your loving voice. She is that part of you guiding you and loving you from deep within. She wants nothing but the best for you.

I mentioned her briefly back in episode 6 Your NOW story when I was talking about the other voice inside of you, your ego. I won’t go into it too much now, so if you’d like to know more about your ego and you haven’t listened to episode 6 yet, you can do so after you listen to this episode.

It’s fair to say that your ego and your loving voice do compete with each other, just a bit. Mostly it’s your ego trying to take control of everything. Wanting to keep you safe which really means you aren’t moving forward into the life you are meant to live because it’s scary there. Things might happen which cause you to feel differently than what you do now.

Your NOW feelings are safe and secure. They are comfortable. So your ego does everything it can to ensure you do not venture outside of your comfort zone and what you know as familiar.

But your loving voice. Well, your loving voice knows better. Your loving voice knows what you are here on this earth to do. Your loving voice WANTS you to grow and learn and expand as a human being.

Your loving voice knows the plan. She knows.

She whispers to you all the time. She doesn’t really shout at you unless you are completely ignoring her words for the longest time. Those are the times when shit really hits the fan.

You lose your job, you get really sick, your kids get hurt, you and your partner have a huge fight, you may even break up. There are lots of ways your loving voice tries to get your attention.

Those are the big ones. There are more subtle ways too.

You have a recurring thought about changing your job, travelling for a few months or leaving a relationship you know is not right for you.

She will talk to you with signs and synchronicities. Bumping into someone who has the exact answer you need. A song on the radio you need to hear because the words are profound for what is happening in your life right now. A slight move in the direction she knows you need to go without you even knowing it is happening.

I know my loving voice took me to places I probably never would have gone on my own. I moved to America when I was 22 to au pair twins babies.

I was completely obsessed with America as a teenager. It looked so beautiful and magical to me. It was everything I didn’t have in my life. I used to go to the travel agents and get the free travel brochures. I’d cut out all the pictures and stick them up on my bedroom wall and dream about one day living there.

And, I did. Twice.

But me living there happened without me even really thinking about it. Yes, I took the actions I needed to make it happen but it seemed to come from somewhere deep inside me. I didn’t have complete control over what was happening.

Same thing when I moved to the UK. I was taken over and it somehow happened.

All the pieces fell into place. It was almost too easy. Like it was absolutely meant to happen.

I learnt so much from my travels and I always say that the best thing to ever happen to me was moving to the UK because it positioned me on a path I only ever thought was for someone other than me.

I had the most amazing time in the UK and without it I don’t know where I would be today. This was always part of my plan. A plan I was not privy to. A plan someone else mapped out for me. My loving voice.

She has been leading me this whole time. And it has taken me many decades to realise that there was this other part of me.

I believed I was this one horrible person who didn’t deserve anything good in my life and there was nothing I could do about it.

Then one day an ad popped up in my news feed from Gabrielle Bernstein. She was offering a free masterclass about something. I can’t quite remember exactly what it was now. I think it was something spiritual.

I have always been a spiritual woman but I was never exactly sure what that meant for me and what I believed in specifically.

So, I watched the masterclass and it then led me into a wonderful rabbit hole of spirituality.

I discovered so many great spiritual teachers such as Louise Hay, Vishen Lahkiani, Dr Joe Dispenza, I rediscovered Tony Robbins; and the list goes on.
And they all talk about what is within us. I started to have aha moments and old memories of times when I felt compelled to do something even when it went completely against who I believed I was as a person.

And, then I felt her. I heard her. I heard her whispering to me. Lovingly. And I knew there was so much more to me than just a one-dimensional woman.

Now, your loving voice is not separate to your soul. I believe she is your soul. I have just chosen to call her my loving voice.

You may call her something different. The name is really not that important.

Your connection to her is.

You have to believe that she is working for your greater good. That she knows what your life here on earth is supposed to look like.

And that every single situation you find yourself in is because there is a lesson you need in order for you to grow and flourish even more as a woman and a human being.

Yes, unfortunately, even those really shitty, fucked up situations that no one should ever have to deal with.

They are yours. And, she has given them to you.

But, there are plenty of wonderful situations she gives to you to, if you allow them.

Because those moments can be missed when you stay stuck in the shitty ones. The shitty moments do need to be dealt with, they do need love and support so you can move through them and continue in a forward motion, and use them as a way of healing, dealing and teaching.

Teaching others what you have learnt so they don’t go through the same thing or if they do, they know they can come out the other side a stronger, more empowered woman. That there is hope and life can be different, be better.

My own past has led me to this place. I have gone through some really shitty things so I can talk about them and show there is beauty on the other side. But we have to allow it to come into our lives.

That is definitely one thing we can forget about. I was so stuck in my own misery, wallowing in my own shit for so long that I had no idea life could be so amazing.

I didn’t know that my life was ALREADY amazing. I travelled the world all on my own. I got out and lived as best I could. I allowed a wonderful man to come into my life. I allowed myself to be the mother to my daughter I never had.

I have allowed myself to release this podcast. I’m fucking shit scared of what might come of it. I’m afraid it might not amount to anything but I have done it anyway because it FEELS right.

It was a thought in my mind for probably 2 years before it became a reality. But it needed time to ruminate, to grow, to develop into what it is now.

I hate my voice. I don’t think I have anything wise and inspiring to say. I believe I am boring and mundane.

But I am doing it. And I am not doing it alone. My loving voice is with me every step of the way.

She guides me. Yes, sometimes I feel as though I am a puppet with no control over what is going on but in a good way. A great way.

I know she will never lead me into situations I can’t handle or that aren’t for me.

And, you can be assured your loving voice is doing the same for you.

Can you think of a time when you have done something that just kind of happened? There was no real thought to it. It just unfolded as though there was a force doing all the work? You were just along for the ride?

You loving voice doesn’t necessarily want to do these things without you but sometimes she has to take over so you know what is possible. You know what you are capable of. To give you a kick up the butt.

She doesn’t want you to waste your life living your groundhog day. She doesn’t want to see you anxious inside because you feel your life is not what you’d like it to be.

She is your love. Your guiding force.

It is time to connect with her own a deeper level.

But how do you do that?

It’s’ simple.

Listen.

Take your attention beneath all the chatter inside your mind.

That chatter is clogging up the connection to your loving voice.

Your ego is vying for your attention. It wants to be the only voice you hear. The only voice you listen to.
But you need to turn down the volume of your ego so you can hear what your loving voice is saying to you.

She doesn’t constantly chatter like your ego does. She speaks when there is something significant to say.

It doesn’t matter whether it’s of high significance or only a smaller significance.

She talks to inspire, to lead, to guide, to teach, to love and to push you.

You have to learn to trust her. To believe in her.

So, find some time each day to go within. Even if it is only a few minutes.

Ignore the chatter in your mind and bring your attention to deepest part of your being. This is where your loving voice lives.

What is she saying to you? What does she want you to hear? To know?

Ask her “what do you want me to know?” You can ask her anything. If you have a question you need an answer to, ask her. The answer may not come straight away. It may come in a few hours or a few days. Be aware and remain open to receiving the answer.

Write your answers down so you don’t forget. Write your question down so it is out of you ready for the answer.

And, just listen. Throughout the day, listen. If you feel a bit off and the situation you are in is not what you would like it to be. Listen. What do you need to do?

If your job is sucking the life out of you and you cannot take it anymore, take a few moments and listen. What is she telling you? What is your next move?

You may need to ask the same question numerous times before the answer comes. But sometimes you already know. You’re just not trusting that it is the right one for you.

You let your mind get in the way of your answer. You justify why it can’t be the right answer. You make up stories about why you cannot possibly move into your answer. Your fear gets in the way, your logic, your friends and family talk you out of it because they too are too scared to move into their answers.

But, your loving voice KNOWS. She holds all the answers. You hold them together.

You will need to get out of your own way so you can believe in them and trust in them.

We all make excuses as to why we can’t live in our answers. Why we can’t BE who we know deep, deep inside we are meant to be.

Everything we need is inside of us. It’s all in there. Every single answer we need for our life.

Your loving voice can give them to you. She wants to speak them to you.

So listen. Go quiet and listen.

Thank you so much for listening to me today, beautiful. This really is a dream come true for me and my loving voice has led me here. To you.

I spent so much of my life being quiet, not speaking up, staying small that I forgot I have a voice worth listening to.

You may not always agree with what I say and that’s ok.

This is a conversation between us. Yes, I have lots to say but I also want to hear what you have to say.

So, leave me a comment, email me your thoughts, get in touch and let me know what conversations you’d like to have.

But before you go, I invite you to find out more about the Positively You program. Inside the program there is a more detailed lesson about listening to your loving voice and how she can help you find your own beautiful and unique answers.

Are you ready to find yours?

Use the link in the show notes to find out more.

Continue raising love within yourself. Speak soon.